Some cat owners have trouble getting their feline friends to interact with them, and this could be misinterpreted as “My cat doesn’t like me.” Chances are your cat does like you, you’re just going about getting his affection the wrong way. Cats are animals that like to have things done on their terms, and understanding that is the first thing you need to know before you can get your cat to interact with them. Here are a few tips that can help you achieve a strong bond with your cat.
1) Make sure all your interactions are not threatening to your cat. Don’t suddenly pick him up, or make direct eye contact. Cats don’t like that, and in some cases may think it’s rude. When talking to your cat, speak softly and soothing.
2) Spend time petting your cat in the places he likes. Not all cats are the same, but most like to be pet behind the ears, along the chin, and down the back. Sweetie the Cat loves when I pet her backside. During a petting session, she will maneuver herself so that my hand is suddenly on her butt. Her head goes down, and her butt goes straight up in the air. She even goes on her tip toes to get that maximum height with her butt.
You’ll probably want to avoid tummy rubs. Most cats don’t like that. If you want to try it anyway, wait until you’ve created a very strong bond, and always keep an eye on her tail. When the tail starts to twitch, back off. These petting sessions should be short, at least in the beginning. Your cat will let you know when to stop.
3) Use interactive toys and play with your cat. I find the best time to play with Sweetie is during sunset. That’s when she most alert and ready to “hunt”. Although she plays by herself, she also enjoys when I play with her. We usually play catch. She attacks her fish toy and then flips it in the air towards me. I flip it back, and we play catch. This usually goes on for a good ten to fifteen minutes before she decides to move onto other things.
There are a variety of toys you and your cat can play with. Fishing poles, feathers, yarn, and my favorite, the flashlight. The other great thing about building a bond by playing, is it usually tires them out, so they might sleep during the night instead of destroying your home while you sleep.
4) Groom your cat. Cat’s love to be brushed or combed, but be gentle when you do it. Go slow and make rhythmic motions. You can also talk gently to your cat while you do it. I like to sing to Sweetie, and she loves it. The nice part about this is you get rid of a lot of dead fur, which will reduce your cats hairball problems. But remember to stop when your cat show signs that she’s had enough. Remember, everything you do for your kitty is on her terms, not yours.
All good relationships take time, so don’t expect instant bonding. Before you know it, your kitty will be coming to you on a regular basis. Maybe even sit by the door waiting for you to come home.